When do we say it's really over? (9.26.08)

When a couple decides to part ways, one party will probably still silently wish that they can rekindle their love. One party is still hoping that they can make things work and the other party is moving on, and making all the effort to live a normal life.

When you spent months or years with someone special to you, it's normal to get hurt, be depressed or do stupid things when they left you, or decides to move on. It's normal to cry, jail yourself in your bedroom, drink beers until you passed out or starve yourself to death. But there will come a time when you will get tired of being pathetic, feeling ugly and fat.

Of course there are times also when you stalk your ex, look for every information that you can get through friends, even through the internet, checking their friendster, facebook or myspace accounts. You also get to the point where you stalk your ex by calling them, text messaging them nonstop, going to his place when you're drunk dead.

But after all the humiliation and pathetic moves that we do to see if the relationship will still work, we need to go back to our senses. Well, some strategies might actually work and they will get back with you, and that's good, but what if they start to really move on and decided that he will not have anything to do with you? Sad but true, if that is the case, we have to get up and take a shower and put on some really good clothes, and meet up with friends, eat out with your college friends, or have coffee with your co-workers.

We should always remember that when someone leaves, it's because someone is bound to arrive. They say that things happen for a reason, though I have yet to confirm that it's true, I hope that it will happen to me and to everyone else.